It's the heart

In life, there are a lot of things to do, some easy, some hard. For example, it's easy to fall in love, it's hard to let go a person.

But, when we are facing the hard stage, are we capable enough to deal with it? A lot of times, we feel weak, especially doing things unwillingly. You hope to get a better result. Your love one doesn't love you in return, obviously the best way is to let go, but it seems hard because you are not willing to do so. You feel weak, unfair, because you want things to end up your way. It's hard to accept the fact that, the person who used to love you, doesn't love you anymore. It's like something stabbing your heart. I know. I know. It's sad, unacceptable.

But hey, face the reality, be conscious. If someone who doesn't love you or appreciate you anymore, it's not worth of your time to waste on it. Stop spending your time on realizing the pain but spend time on recovering.

Stop being insecure, low self esteem, sad or hurt. Look! One person doesn't love you doesn't mean that the whole world dislike you. One thing for sure is God loves you! Your family love you!

Making yourself look pathetic doesn't help you from recovering.

A heart of gratitude and confident is a heart who automatically attracts people. So in order to make people fall in love with you, you have to first fall in love with yourself.

Remember, no matter how unwilling you are or how hard it is, God is here to help you, and He has a better plan for you.

I can do all things through Christ who
strengthens me. (Philippians 4:13 NKJV)

Love,
Elaine

Believe

Believe is an easy way to say but hard to do. When we said we believe in God's ways do we believe it 100% or we still carry doubt and planning back up plans?

Friends, today I would like to challenge you to put 100% trust in Him. I know it's sounds hard, eventually it's not. When things don't happen, prayers not answered, what you need to do is not finding back up plans but pray persistently! Sometimes things don't work as we thought doesn't mean that God doesn't exist, it's He planning a better plan for you, things that you deserve more than you requested.

As what I mentioned earlier, determination is very important, especially in prayers. Stop giving yourself excuses like no time, don't know how to pray, because God knows us well, even our silent prayer will be answered.

What you do when you are weak? Seek for His strength more! Remember how He blessed you. Pray more. Don't give up! Believe you can, believe He can!

So let's do our part as a believer. Do your best and let God settle the rest!

Living like an addict.

If you ask me, whether do I still think of him. My answer is Yes, in fact every night I am thinking about him, facing the urge to message him, ask him how can he did this to me. Its normal, its natural, because we are human beings, we have emotions, but what's the point?

We cannot give ourselves excuses anymore, its time to wake up. Time is running out, we should put our concentration on something more valuable. Messaging him, understanding the reasons,  have no values at all, in fact it will drag me down. Therefore what I did is, whenever I felt like messaging him, I will think of my future. Stop living in your past, but concentrate on your future.  Let go your ex, for you next. :)

Of course, letting go, is not a one day process, it takes time, just like how an addict get rid of the addiction. We need to have patience, determination, willpower, and of course God's strength. 

To be frank, I never felt this way before, its hurt. Every time I think of him, or the memories, its like a knife stabbing my heart, reminding me he left me. Sometimes I even think of silly ways to grab his attention, like "accident", "commit suicide" and so on. ( I know it happens to you too.) So its normal, but the thing is, when we fell down, that's only 2 ways for us, its either you remain the same position and cry or you wipe your tears and walk again. We cannot let our bad experience destroy us. You have to be strong, continue walking only you will meet your perfect match right?

So don't give up, let go your past. Smile and walk again, stop think about how to revenge, or how to get him back, but think something more useful. Think how to be a better person, set goals, and fulfill it. Every relationship there's lost and gain, focus on the gains and let go the lost. Trust in the Lord, that He is preparing a better one for you. Remember, he left you, doesn't mean you are unworthy, but you deserve someone better, someone who will appreciate you and felt the same way as you do. 

So peeps, lets think of a better future today. Stop staying in the shadow and search for your rainbow. 

Love,
Elaine

Overcome your sadness

Are you S.A.D? Single And Desperate? Feeling lonely, like no one is there for you. Sometimes you just wish that there's a person staying next to you, comfort you, support you, you feel loved. Well, its normal to feel that way, I believe everyone felt that. (Even I do)

But the question is, how can we overcome these feelings? Well, its not easy if you do it yourself. For me, I choose to submit to God. I know, I know, this sounds religious. But hey, this is not a religion, but a relationship with God. (So don't close the link first. :P)

First of all, we need to know that God loves us, yes. He loves you. You may think this is ridiculous, like how can He loves me when He doesn't even know me well, or I don't even believe in Him. The truth is He knows you well, He knows you since you are in your mother's womb, He is the creator, He creates you. 

Okay, okay, let me say it this way, let me share with you my experience. This few months I felt SAD, sad and I gone through a hardship, broken relationship, everything went wrong. Same as you, every night I felt lonely, helpless, desperate for love, questioning myself, why? Why isn't there a person to love me? Am I really that bad? Every single night, I felt that way. I tried many solutions to make myself feel better, I shopped, I hang out with friends, I read books, watched movies and so on, but yea,  still feeling emptiness inside. Its like Damn! 

Until I went back to God's arm. Since I tried so many ways to make myself feel better and it fails, no harm trying to pray. So I prayed, every night, but then I realize praying is not enough, because its just me talking to God, so I add in devotion, and BOOM! Every devotion I read strikes my heart, its like God sending message to me. 

There's one devotion I will never forget, HURT, HEAL, HELP. Remember God is the creator, everything is under His control, everything that happen He knows, and there's a purpose behind. We hurt by others, our heart torn into pieces. What do we do next? SEEK for God's HEALING. Let Him do the healing, all you need to do is HAVE FAITH. Well, for me when I prayed I will place my hand on my chest, felt my heart being wrapped by His arm that God is doing the healing process. I will felt His arm hugging around me. Day by day, bit by bit, I am healed. So whats next? HELP, remember everything happen with a purpose, its because I been through all the pains and healing, I am here to help my friends, everyone and you. Same goes to you.

Remember to be strong and have Faith, once you been through this hardship, not only you get the benefits, your family and friends will get it too, because they will have you, to help them, accompany them. So don't let your temporary pain cause a permanent damage in your life. Take it easy, its just a process. You can make it through the rain. You can!

Love,
Elaine